Comments on: Marriage After Infidelity – How my Marriage Surived & Thrived

By: Robert

Robert — Sun, 27 Mar 2011 14:40:03 +0000

I used to think I was a forgiving person until infidelity in marriage happened. I tried counseling, I tried to get over things, but when your betrayed like that its so hard. I am aware that even though someone broke our wedding vows, the relationship was in turmoil before this happened. I do think it went too far. I should have fixed the relationship before this happened. I still love them deeply…I just wish I could forgive.

By: David

David — Tue, 01 Feb 2011 11:30:32 +0000

First thing that you should do is to have a talk about the events that have occurred whether it is only the two of you or maybe with an expert counselor trained in cheating. Then and only then will you be in a position to deal with the real problems that result in the affair to begin with.

By: Darcy

Darcy — Mon, 20 Dec 2010 23:48:05 +0000

My husband began his affair in 2001 right after I found out that I had cancer. When I found out, he cried and begged me he would leave her and so we stayed together (We have a daughter). I recently found out that he never ended this affair and has been seeing her for 10 years now. He once again cried and told me he would leave her and wanted to be with me. I talked with her and I hope that it really is over. My problem is..I just don’t trust him any more. I tried to get him to go to counseling but he won’t do it. He hugs me and tells me loves me all the time, but when it comes to a more intimate relationship he pulls away. I am so confused and am so tired of not sure what my mood will be like from one day to the next. I feel so alone and don’t have anyone to talk with. I have looked on line for help but nothing seems right for me. I could sure use some advice.

By: George Fellows

George Fellows — Fri, 15 Oct 2010 11:35:18 +0000

Hi Tonya,

Thank you so much for your comment and your tale. I am glad you found a way through this – you are another living example that things can get better.

Soemtimes it takes a lot of hard work – sometimes it can be like a switch being flicked in your brain – we all approach it differently.

God bless Tonya

By: Tonya

Tonya — Tue, 05 Oct 2010 15:31:40 +0000

Hi George,

I just want to let you know that I too am a survivor of an affair. However, I got so deeply depressed and stayed miserable for 2 yrs after hating my marriage, my husband, myself, and my life! I thought in my mind getting revenge would cure it however it did not I felt just as scummy as I thought of him! Finally, I knew we could not live our lives like that anymore not only for us but our kids knew we hated each other. So one night I stayed up late and watched Fireproof and realized that I couldn’t be without him and I loved him so very much and when I was away from him my god I wanted him with me. We worked through it of course trust is something we have to gain and 1 thing we NEVER do is bring up the past its hurtful and is something we dont want to relive! Thanks for you time.

By: George Fellows

George Fellows — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 09:24:45 +0000

Hi Mary,

Thank you for the comment! Yes, the trust factor is one of the massive issues that needs to be overcome. Forgiveness and a rebuilding of trust is like a rebirth of a marriage and of your soul I found.

All the best Mary!

By: Mary S. Allen

Mary S. Allen — Fri, 27 Aug 2010 15:25:44 +0000

Hey George,

I would just start by thanking you for sharing this online. There is a lot of information on the internet about infidelity, but it usually written by people who have no real knowledge of this subject and are just trying to sell something. I have not experienced this my-self and am grateful, but I have experienced loosing trust in your spouse. It took a while to get it back with some help from a couple counselor.
I’m glad that you found a way to fix your marriage and make it stronger

By: George Fellows

George Fellows — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 09:50:29 +0000

Hi Warren,

I know the feeling well. I hope you did get a copy of this ebook, not because I think it is some sort of amazing cure all pill for every problem in your marriage from infidelity …. but because it DOES give you the framework, and the knowledge you can use to make the changes nessessary.

Keep faith, be open minded, work hard at it and you can bring that love back in time.

I wish you all the best in this difficult period.

By: Warren

Warren — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 06:47:59 +0000

Hi George, thanks for the write up and the honesty about your situation. I was wondering if anyone really did get over an affair because i feel that i cant and it is tearing me up!

I have never bought an ebook on line before but I will have a look at this because I am so fucking tired of the arguments and mood swings. I just want to be married and in love again.